Today is Tuesday for those of you who keep up with space and time.
Have you ever stopped to think about what time really is? What does it mean and is it real?
This weekend I spent a good bit of time thinking about time. Time with my daughter, time for exercise, time to read, time to plan, time to socialize, time to eat, time to pray, time to call someone special, time to take a trip.
But are those thoughts even worth the time?
When I was spending time with my family this weekend, I tried hard to focus on the engagement between myself and others. What are we sharing? Can I tell how the other person is feeling? By focusing on the exchange, strangley enough it creates a unconscious behavior of paying better attention to the entire event as oppossed to just your piece of the conversation. I swear I talk to folks sometimes who seem like they are in the middle of an entirely different conversation with themselves!
When I foucsed on the entire exchange, I was also able to recall more detail about the conversation.
When I foucsed on where we were sitting and how we were facing each other, I was also able to remember that part of the conversation better. You begin to forget about other distractions like how much time do I have before im doing something else?
All anyone wants in a conversation is to know that they have been heard and we all have a right to that basic desire. Next time you are having a casual conversation with a friend or collegue, do yourself and the greater good a favor by forgetting about time and focusing on forging better relationships.
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